Here's a short discussion on break ups...to those people who can somehow relate to this...try to think things over...it's not easy to go on like this...ü
I believed that forgetting about someone is one of the most hardest things in life , especially if you had this gut feeling that he/she is the one . I used to carry all of these beliefs in mind, until that day, where i went deep into the psychology of falling in love. Those breakups that kept you depressed for years won’t take few weeks or even days before you forget all about them. Getting over someone will be a matter of weeks if not days.
If you think that pain is an essential part of love ,if you think that lovers should suffer then stop reading. However, if you believe that exaggerated attachment is something that hinders you from living happy and if you believe that this pain is unnecessary then keep reading. Breakups won’t hurt like they used, you wont label anybody as the one from now on and recovery is going to take place much faster.
Since I am not a magician, I cant say that one article will do the job, and that’s why you need to go through all of the links below, I know this will take a lot of time, it may even take up half an hour of your time, but remember, the reward is getting rid of this pain that has lasted for years.
You don’t have to read the articles in order but you have to read them all. Read the articles carefully, you don’t have to do it in one day, just make sure you give yourself the time to understand them.
What will happen to you after reading these articles:
1-You will discover that "The One" Concept is a myth
2-You will discover that lots of people can be the one
3-You will discover that being dumped doesn’t mean that you are bad
4-You will become 10 times stronger than before.
5-You will recover from breakups much easier
6-you will never have any problems getting over someone
7-You will know how to get over someone even if you think that you can't forget him
Have you ever heard a song then suddenly found yourself remembering a situation that happened to you years ago? This is called an ANCHOR, which forms when two events keep occurring together until they become one thing in your mind. For example, that song that reminded you of the situation, and the situation itself were anchored together in your mind, and that's why when one of them occurs, you remember the other one automatically.
Anchored to Him!!
Imagine then, what would happen if you kept going to the same places with the same person, if you kept doing the same things over and over together. In the end, this person will become anchored with each of these activities and places, and so as soon as you bump into any of these places, you will unavoidably remember him.
How to Forget About Him?
Forgetting about a previous relationship is very easy. In the case of that old song that constantly reminds you of your partner; by listening to this song while not with your love, you will be gradually removing the effect of that song's association with your breakup, in other words, you're releasing the anchor to your previous relationship. Eventually, you will find yourself not moved in any way when listening to it.
So, if you want to forget about him, just live your life normally without trying to remember him, and as you keep visiting these places without your partner, the anchor will weaken then completely disappear and he will no longer linger in your mind again.
The good news is that you can unlearn them with ease and retake control of your life!
Is the Concept of “The One” true?
- Anyone could fill that role: What actually makes you think that this person was “The one” is the sweet experience that you had with him. This experience is associated with that person and stored in your mind as one item, and so you think of both the experience and the person as one thing but actually they are two separate things. If you still aren't convinced, just wait and see what happens the next time you fall in love with someone and share that same sweet experience together. You will just forget about your old love and this new person will become the new "one".
- How many "ones" did you have before?: Just take a look at your past and you will discover that each time you fell in love you thought that this person was the one, that whatever happened you wouldn't be able to forget about him and that you won't be able to find someone like him again. What usually happens is that a few months later someone else appears in your life and becomes “the one” and so life goes on.
- The psychology of falling in love: As I said before, before you fall in love with someone your mind matches him against certain predefined criteria, if anyone matches these criteria you may end up falling in love with him, but just because someone matched these criteria once and became “The one”, that doesn't mean that no one else can match it. What this actually signifies is that this person is currently the best match but sooner or later a better match could be found.
- Is this your first deep love experience? : If this is your first deep love experience, you will most probably believe in that false idea called “The one” more strongly simply because you have never experienced that emotional intensity with someone else before. In that case, you're not really to blame if you thought that he was the one, but the next time you enter a relationship, you will discover that it was the emotional intensity and not the person himself whom you loved.
"It takes a couple seconds to say Hello, but forever to say Goodbye."
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1 comment:
hi, you've left a comment in my blog. I'm from Argentina and so there are the pictures you saw.
I don't know who are you or where are you from but thanks anyway!
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